OK. You have joined a
couple of dating services and written a killer profile. You’ve uploaded a good picture and now you
are going to chat with a contact. What
now? How do you start separating those
who have real potential and those who don’t have any potential at all? You need to find out something about who this
strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is. It would be nice if women wore labels like
“Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl”….but they don’t so it’s up to you to find these
things out and you can’t just ask direct questions. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid
making and how to impress this lady if you decide you want to do that.
After you are past the initial small talk, ask her, “What are
the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?” Listen carefully to her answers. She’s going to tell you a lot about herself
and her views on men in general.
Next you should ask her, “What do you really think about
online dating?” Now she will tell you if
she has had any bad experiences dating o line and help you to avoid making the
same things wrong.
Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in
your last relationship?” If she puts all
the blame on the guy, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If she takes all the blame herself, you
should probably do the same. If she says
the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right
for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer. Move forward but always with caution.
Asking the right questions will give you insight and make you
more confident when you meet the lady for the first time.